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Switching > Leaving The Life You Once Knew > CONs
 Posted by Two_Ladies
Dec 20, 2006 02:53 PM
Leaving The Life You Once Knew
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It’s happened. Someone has finally realised your true potential and offered you your dream job. Only catch, it’s in another state.
Time used to have it that people lived, worked and died in the same place they were born. But in this era of itchy feet, leaving your roots for pastures new is by no means uncommon and with career now top of most people’s priorities, relocating for work opportunities is universal.
Nowadays it is almost unusual to stay put. But what happens when you are the first to take off, leaving the life you once knew, including friends and family, far behind?
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| Peer pressure |
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| Being the new kid on the block, you may feel the need to fit in with the existing group dynamic. Just like the new kid in school trying to make friends, you may feel pressure to agree to things that normally you wouldn’t. So much so that you may feel you have to change who you really are. |
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| Losing family time |
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| You never know what you’ve got until it’s gone. Yet another cliché that rings true under these circumstances. Having your family close by is one of the greatest gifts of all – even if at times it doesn’t feel as such! Moving away limits the amount of time you are able to spend with them and the further the distance, the lesser the time. |
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| Added expenses |
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| If this opportunity is the first time you will live out of the family home, you will be in for some big financial shocks. Although you will be building up your income, having to folk out on all general living expenses such as rent, gas, electric, water and groceries will mean you may not get to see much of your wage. There will also be travel expenses for both work and home visits. And then there’s the social side. Trying to form a new life means making new friends so you need to say yes to every social invitation. It all costs money. |
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| Getting lost |
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| Moving to a new place can be a daunting time. With the streets and buildings all looking the same, even going out to buy a pint of milk can be a challenge. Chances are you will get lost several times to begin with, and that’s just to and from work! This can be a big problem if you suffer from panic attacks brought on by change. |
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| Feeling left out |
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| It’s Friday night and you’re out having a couple of drinks with some colleagues after work. It’s all very nice and polite but it’s nothing compared to your weekend nights of old. How ever lovely your work mates are they tend to be friendships of convenience, manufactured in an artificial environment. And worse still, your nights of old back home are going on without you. |
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| Independent or Isolated? |
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| There is a difference between being independent and standing on your own two feet and being isolated and having no other options.
You are moving to a new city, maybe a new state. The only people you know are at work and the reality they will already have their own lives outside of work – just like you did at home. At the end of working day they will be going home to friends and family and you go back to an empty flat with few social options.
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