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Relationships > Staying Single
 Posted by write2serve
Dec 13, 2006 07:13 PM
Staying Single
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Addicting, this freedom we all enjoy. You get used to it and you may end up alone, some warn. Despite the disadvantages of being single, however, some of us simply like the elegance of solitary living. It's not as if we're completely alone. If we feel like breaking bread with someone, we just call our favorite person. If we feel like traveling to Nepal and go mountain trekking, you know instinctively who the perfect travel companion would be. There's a lot to be said for being a perpetual bachelor - man or woman. And the freedom can be downright exhilarating!
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Yay! I'm single!
Being single can be the best thing ever! You and you alone are in control of your life. We don't need to have a significant other to be happy individuals, despite what those around us may tell us. There are more important things in life than having a tonsil hockey partner.
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Married people said to be healthier and happier
It’s official. This is not medical quackery but hard scientific evidence. Married people live longer lives. Loneliness can hasten the aging process, the experts say, because of a lack of emotional and psychological support. People with strong support systems are stronger and happier. The Rand Organization’s Center for Study of Aging say that health benefits obtained by men who stay married or remarry are numerous: care during illness, better nutrition, and a home situation that diminishes stress and illnesses, promotion of healthy behavioral patterns. How about giving marriage a kick in the can?
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Yeah boy!
i love the single life
although it has it's upppppps!
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Family pressure to settle down
It’s only because your mother feels you need someone to share a house with. It’s only because your father has saved some money and is waiting to spoil his grandchildren. You won’t hear the end of it. You can say repeatedly you’re happy the way you are, it won’t matter. Parents will be parents. They’re concerned about you and believe you’ve had your flings, now it’s time to get serious about life. Human beings were designed to procreate. The world needs fresh blood so the economic and political systems can stay afloat. Mom and dad raised and nurtured you, about time you returned the favor and pass it forward!
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You avoid fatherhood/motherhood, especially if you aren’t fond of children
Why are some people not overly excited about having children? There are many reasons. One, they could have had a sad childhood and they’re afraid that their children will turn out like them – sad and indifferent and afraid of showing their true feelings. Two, they are married to their careers and are at the prime of life, so having children could derail their career ambitions and limit their career prospects. Three, there’s too many crimes committed against children and they wouldn’t want to expose their own children to the ugliness of the world. Four, they have a disease that runs in their family and they’re afraid to pass it on to the next generation. The list of reasons could go on and on. And most of the times, these reasons aren’t selfish at all.
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No one to come home to – lonely existence
You may be the life of the party and the most invited player to tennis matches, but admit it – you still come home to an empty house. Or one of your buddies excuses himself and says, “sorry, got to rush home. I promised the kids I’d take them to the ballgame.” And what about you, what’s your excuse? Take it from the famous people. Mother Teresa said, “The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved.” And this one from Orson Welles, “We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone.”
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You continue to meet interesting members of the opposite sex
Variety is the name of the game. There are numerous intelligent and beautiful and health-conscious individuals out there and they make such sparkling conversation. Why put an end to these hedonistic and intellectual pursuits? Didn’t our teachers tell us not to be shy and be open to everyone? And mother always used to say, don’t marry the first creature you fall in love with. In fact, with love so hard to define these days, who’s to say your feelings are not mere infatuations? Time’s on your side. You’re not exactly in a rush.
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It’s awkward to be the only single individual in the gang
After a certain age, most of your friends are married and are already parents. So the old gang doesn’t feel right anymore. It used to be just the boys or just the girls, and now mixing with spouses and kids is making you very uncomfortable. You feel like the oddball because you have no spouse you can introduce to your friends. And all that teasing about your sexual orientation – heaven forbid!
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You maintain control over your assets and other material possessions
If there’s anything you dislike, it’s financial interference. Your parents left you quite a sum of money when they passed away and this tidy amount is supposed to make your life easier. You can’t afford to have a spouse who’s always short of cash and borrowing money from you. First, you lose respect and next, you begin to see your spouse in a different light – a conniving, selfish and greedy gold-digger. By staying single, you can avoid the “can you spare some change” epidemic.
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A polygamous single life could increase the risk of sexually transmitted
Don’t say you haven’t been warned. Having multiple sexual partners could generate a whole slew of sexually transmitted diseases. We know the bachelor’s curse fairly well. By staying single you get to meet many people and being single translates into unrestricted sex. When, where and how you want it – that’s a decision you get to make without fear of a tongue-lashing from the significant other. Just remember to have yourself checked by a physician regularly.
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You avoid “state-of-the-union” blues and post-marriage depression
Marriage is a huge responsibility. Your responsibility is to yourself. And once you’re married, another bigger responsibility looms in the horizon – becoming a parent. Domestic duties pile up leaving you out of breath. Arguments about the mortgage, the job, the social gatherings and in-laws add to the “state-of-the-union blues. You’re not coerced into addressing the nation if you don’t have to. By staying single, you don’t have to reach out for the aspirin bottle to relieve your stress headaches.
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You don’t report your whereabouts to anyone
One boss – the one at the office – is enough. Having to report your whereabouts to a significant other is asking too much. Bohemian by nature, you feel stifled and suffocated when you’re being pressed for a commitment. Marriage is farthest from your mind, besides you haven’t accomplished half your goals on your list. Having a spouse can limit your options and distract you from your mission in life. Besides, you’re not sure if the marriage will end up in divorce. You don’t feel like you’re being given the third degree when your spouse asks, “what time will you be home for dinner, hon?”
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