If you find yourself in an abusive relationship, the first thing you need to understand is that you are not alone. Millions of people - both men and women- find themselves in abusive relationships. It's pretty obvious why these relationships aren't healthy but what you might not know is hard it can be to get out, especially if you are married or have children. Many people stay in the hopes that things will change or that they can work it out. If you are in this situation or if you are trying to help a friend who is in this situation, you need to know the pros and cons of staying so you can make an informed decision.
He/she is beating you up!!! Get out of there now! There are no 'pros' to coming home to an environment of fear and brutality!!! Get out of there whild you still have the chance!
In some cases you may be able to convince the abuser that there is a serious problem and they need help. With the proper care they may be able to change and the abuse will stop. In this case you can have the happy life together you want and deserve.
you can be in love with someone but they can be bad for you. what is the point in staying in a realationship if you are not going to be supported but beat down verbally, physically, and mentally. you can end up dead on some bend in the highway because you did not have the strength to leave when you could have gotten out and been somethign great for this world. there is no pro in being in a abucive relationship. my mother was and it lasted for 12 years before she could actually leave. do something good for yourself and get out while you can.
My BEST friend gets abused by her boyfriend i mean come on people whats the point in being with someone if they hit you? they can say they love you but in all reality HOW can they love you if they beat you till you cant move. Yeah the first time they hit you may be one bruise the second may be more but what happens if you have TWO kids and your boyfriend beats you then you die WHOS gunna be there for your kids? YOUR mom? NO you need to be there your their mother...IF YOUR IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSIP GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!!
When staying in an abusive relationship as time goes by people sometimes fall into a state of denial and you may even begin to believe that you are not really being abused. You may even start to think that living in abuse is normal and it is the way everyone lives.
if you can stay and work it out so that the abuse stops it will be beneficial to the children. However, staying while there is constant abuse is dangerous to children involved.
Being in an abusive relationship can cause a person to have some serious emotional problems. These problems can stay with you for the rest of your life.
Abuse can make a person feel insignificant and have a very low self-esteem. It can make you feel like your life is worthless and even in some cases invoke thoughts of suicide.
If you are receiving physical abuse it is very possible for you to be severely injured or even killed. The longer you stay in this relationship the harder it will become to leave and the higher the risk become.
If you are staying in an abusive relationship for the sake of children this could become a serious problem. It can be much more harmful for a child to grow up in an abusive home than it would be in a broken home. For one thing the abuse can spread to the children and cause serious physical problems for them. Whether or not they are the object of the abuse they will still suffer from both mental and emotional problems that will last a lifetime.
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